This is the last thing I’ll add for the night, since I might have an aneurism seeing people shame others, and it’s not fucking cool or okay.
:Potential Trigger Warning Ahead:
Calling people selfish for not seeking help (many genuinely think and feel they don’t deserve help because they feel worthless) makes YOU look like an asshole. I’ve said this at least a dozen times. There are many reasons why people don’t seek help. From the stigma attached to self-harm and mental illnesses in general, to the fear of being shamed and judged to the costs of therapy and so on. For clarification, I’m not saying people shouldn’t seek help or discouraging others from not looking into resources. I’m simply putting it how it is.
Telling people to pretty much “get over it” because there are others who have it worse makes you come off as a horrible, uncaring person (and maybe you are). You don’t know why a person is hurting or upset. You don’t know their struggle, their pain or their story. So don’t you fucking DARE invalidate their feelings like that. Saying things like that might in fact make someone worse, and add to their feelings of potential worthlessness.
This is how I hear things from some of you.
"Who cares if your mom died? There are starving children in Africa."
"Who cares if you’re homeless? There are starving children in third world countries."
"Who cares if you got raped? There are starving kids in the world."
"Who gives a fuck if your dad beats you? There are people who have it much worse than you."
"Why should someone care if you have cancer? There are people who got it worse. Get over it."
Do you see what I mean now? I’m not trying to be an asshole, but this is what it sounds like when I hear people invalidate the struggles of people who have genuine reasons to be depressed. Just because you don’t know why they have issues, doesn’t give you the right to be a jackass and shame them. Even if you did, you have no right to shame and beat that person down—because you’re only adding to the stigma and you just might end up fucking someone up more. Even if you had some form of a struggle, telling people to “get the fuck over it because others have it worse” doesn’t do shit to help them.
tl;dr — If you have the audacity to tell someone to pretty much “get over” being depressed because “others have it worse”, you’re a piece of shit.